How to Fight Less, Forgive Faster, and Cultivate Joy in Your Marriage What happened to us? Why is there no joy, no friendship in our marriage? Why don't we feel like a team anymore? If you've ever felt this way about your marriage, you're not alone. Marriage is hard. Every couple comes to a place of disappointment and distance at one point or another. The good news is that your relationship can get better. If you're both willing to work at it, it can work out.